I recall in one of my writing classes, the instructor told us to not take critiques of our stories personally, which is the first thing everyone does when they get a negative critique. It always makes me smile when remembering all the red faces and frowns I saw during my critique sessions.
I know why the instructor gave us his advice on how to handle a critique. He wanted us to understand that no matter how negative the critique was that it was essential for us to be able to focus on what the critique was saying about the story. He felt that the only way for us to do this was to not take our critiques personally.
Now that I am a published author, meaning that I have been critiqued over and over again, I find that I create my best manuscripts when I take my critiques to heart. You see writing comes from the heart, it is a piece of you. For goodness sake, you are literally putting your dreams, or nightmares, on paper for others to read.
When someone critiques your story and finds negative points that should be reviewed and you don't take the negative comments personally; you may not realize that the errors were not a one time thing. You may assume that the mistakes made are just related to the story being critiqued and has nothing to do with you as a writer.
I feel that my critiques are not just about the story, but also about me as a story teller. If one of my critiques finds slow pacing in the plot, I take it to heart so that I can not only correct the story, but myself as well.
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