|Break your sex scene down like a Kamasutra box|
How often do your characters have sex? If you answered more than once every other chapter then that is one steamy story you are writing there. So hot that you won’t need an oven to bake that turkey this Thanksgiving. Just lay that savory nakedness on those velvety pages and watch that muscle toned meat sizzle. Excuse me… Wait, so that’s why I am not invited to Thanksgiving dinner anymore.
Anyway, if you are like me then you don’t write erotica and probably can’t recall writing many sex scenes if not any at all. In short fiction you have to worry more about censorship anyway, so if you do choose to write a steamy scene it has to be quick and to the point. After all, everything in short fiction has to be relevant to move the plot forward.
Books are a different matter. You have more freedom to be more descriptive and with that you have more options to take the story in “related” directions, i.e. subplots. So if you want to write about an affair one of your protagonists is having with the antagonist then you are more free to do so. And you don’t have to skip out on any of the details.
The issue for most writers is where do you start when you want to write a sex scene. ‘In the bedroom,’ you say. Well, if you are old fashioned. I have 5 easy tips for you that will help you write an awesome sex scene.
1. Learn as much as you can about our fun parts
We all think we are experts when it comes to sex, but few really are. Think of it this way, unless you work in the medical field and study human anatomy then I would suggest you hit those search engines and do as much research as you can. There is always something new you can learn about the human body. When you do, that knowledge mixed with creativity can intrigue your readers.
Here is an example of a website I have found that talks about the 10 interesting facts about the vagina.
My favorite fact is that you are what you eat. I can really create some fun scenes with that new knowledge. How about you?
2. Learn about the different positions
Wait, you know all of those too right? I am not a Kamasutra master so I like to read articles about it with lots and lots of illustrations. Huge smile, okay I'm done. The purpose of this is the same as doing your research on what the human body can do during sex.
Some of you may even be thinking, well Andre, I can always just grab my significant other and a lab coat and do my own hands on research. You can, but think of it this way. As a writer you constantly look up new words to widen your vocabulary. Why so? Because there are so many different ways to describe a scene. There are so many different ways to write a sex scene if you are keen to all the different ways people have sex.
3. Read erotica
I am not a fan of erotica, but I look at this genre as an Oreo cookie. I just like the cream filing. No pun intended. You don't have to read the whole book, just the juicy parts to see how others are writing about sex. You are trying to learn how other writers try to engage their readers.
If you are limited on what you know about sex and also on how to write it, you are going to have some very soft scenes. Pun intended.
4. Be a director in your head
Did I just tell you to be a porn director? If that helps you with this tip, then sure. When you write your scene think about the the angles of presentation and their order when you have the scene unfold.
An easy way to follow this tip is to outline what happens in order and focus on what is shown in that order; if you can draw then create a story board. Breaking the scene into many different moving parts will help you connect them into a long fluid motion. Think of it as describing a tongue kiss from start to finish. Where you start doesn't have to be with the kiss, you can begin with 'the sweet smell of cognac that escapes by a lover's heavy breath.' The middle pieces are broken into different scenes to help with descriptions and connected in order to show fluidity. The purpose if that you are engaging the reader by building up to the climax. Just like foreplay leading to sex.
Think of a lover slowly undressing before you. Think about the order of actions, each description and how each connect, building up to the climax, which would be the lover fully nude. Hold on, let me get a drink of water.
5. If it doesn't turn you on then edit it out
So you shot the scene and now it is time to take it to the editor. Once again, this is you. Now you have to reassess what doesn't work by what leaves you... unchanged after reading the sex scene.
Once again you have to think of the overall scene in parts, look at what just doesn't do it for you and what doesn't connect with the other parts. Do you feel a rise in anticipation for the climax when each part from the beginning?
If something just doesn't feel right, then kill it before it kills the mood.
Let me know what you think.